How can I improve my relationship?
Every relationship has it’s ups and down. There will be days, weeks, months, maybe even years on end that feel amazing. Then you hit some road bumps or maybe even a wall. This is normal. This is the typical cycle in all relationships. The difference is not whether or not you have challenges, it’s how you manage these challenges in relationship. However, perhaps you’ve gotten to a place where the arguments and frustrations now seem to be the status quo.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
I believe the most important relationships in our lives should be energizing, life giving, and fulfilling more than they are draining, frustrating, and exhausting.
So, how can you improve your relationships?
Relationships are always a give and take. There are things your partner, your friend, your family member, or your colleague could be doing better or differently - 100% I know that is true. But, there are also things that you could be doing better or different to improve your relationship too. Improving your relationship starts with the person reading this - you.
And here’s the thing - who do you ultimately have control over? Your friend? No. Your partner? Oh how life would be better but no way. Your family members? Yeah right! Your boss or colleague? We wish! Yourself. And that’s it.
This does not mean that you are the problem. It is simply an acknowledgment that you only have control over yourself and that you are the only constant in every relationships you are in. Yes, of course, you should be giving feedback to those you are in relationship with and expressing how you want things to be different but if that’s all you are focused on and you aren’t examining how you may need to change, then you aren’t taking advantage of your most valuable asset.
Here are three simple ways you can improve your relationship today
Express how a situation makes you feel, not what the other person did wrong. Try saying, “It makes me sad and upset when I am not made a priority.”
Learn to be more patient. So much easier said than done. I know, I’m right there with you. But our animalistic nature will always be ready to react. Instead, learn how to be more patient, gentle, kind, and open to feedback.
Release your stress outside of the relationship. I.e. queue the self care. Don’t take your frustrations and stresses out on those you are in relationship with. That’s what massages are for!
If you’re looking for ways to improve your relationship, I want to work with you. I help individuals and couples from all walks of life make meaningful change in their relationships. I am passionate about relationships and I would be honored to know more about what you are going through. I offer a free consultation session which is essentially a free full session and I’d love for you to take advantage of it.
Here’s a link to book a free consultation with me today
I can’t wait to talk with you.
